Time for some change in life?

How are you? Have you become the person you dared dream of being? Is your age not the way you feel? Do you work in the same place and not trying to reach for that dream job you always wanted? Is it too late?

What is a midlife crisis? You might feel you have not yet accomplished as much as you wanted and fear it is too late. You might think “I should have done this or that when I was younger, now it is too late”. For some things this might be true, commencing a career in professional soccer, football, rugby, sprinter or marathon, etc after a certain age might prove to be utopic, otherwise, it is seldom too late.

How can we handle a midlife crisis? Here are some tips that can guide you through your midlife crisis

1. Recognize the issues

Write a list, try to get some perspective on your thoughts and situation. What are the main reasons you feel unhappy or depressed? Try to evaluate the list and arrange by importance. By writing a list, maybe with help from your partner, you might get a new view of the problem. If you do manage to get this going by yourself, don’t be ashamed to get help. Maybe from a professional.

2. Set a goal or multiple goals

What will inspire you? I believe in making changes. If you’re not satisfied with a life situation, set a goal and start thinking about the road to creating change. Use helpful tools to keep you on track, such as NoLimit-app. If you experience that you have willpower but not the ability to keep focused, this might do the trick.

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3. Be patient

Change does not happen overnight, be patient and keep working. Make sure you find people that support you, eliminate energy drains. Let your family and friends be a part of your journey, talk about your goals and tasks.

4. Take care of your body

Whatever goal you have, your brain and body need to be in a good shape. Exercise regularly, how boring that may sound. Try to eat well and on regular times. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and break your bad habits by replacing them with good ones. “You get what you work for, not what you wish for”.

Habits contain three parts:

  1. The cue, something that triggers your habit. If you have an evening snack habit the cue might be that you put your children to bed.
  2. The routine, what you do. You head to the kitchen.
  3. The reward, a bowl of chips or 4 cookies.

Try to turn the midlife crisis from a negative feeling to something you can strengthen yourself with, instead of asking, “Is this it?” you should change the internal narrative to: “And so it begins”.

/Petter Sigvaldsen

Petter TQM